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Calling Occupants of LiveGerbil Land

seaivy was writing in her journal about people jumping ship from Livegerbil. A lot of people have done so, and now when I look at my friends list, a lot of them are people who were once very active posters, but who haven't darkened the door of this place in years. I miss many of them, especially some of whom became IRL friends, and who I would meet if I happened to be travelling to their cities. Conversely, while I have made some new LJ friends, I haven't replaced the new ones at the same rate as the old ones left. The demographic of my average LJ friend has changed too. On average new LJ friends are older than the ones I made ten or twelve years ago. That's not surprising, considering how I've aged too. More LJ friends are women now, compared to a decade ago when the majority where male 20-30somethings. But I was never really a party person (not since I quit drinking many years ago when I was in my mid 20s). I have changed however into what one former LJ friend called "dull and domesticated."


Part of the change has come from the evolution that has taken place in my life. I've gone from a single guy, hitting on those open to sexual exploration to someone in a seven year committed monogamous relationship. I've gotten busier in my top secret career, and this along with my relationship has made it more difficult to find the time to journal. Many of my former Livejournal interests have either changed or waned, so that I don't cultivate those communities any more, or feed the friendships that arose out of those common interests. For example, I used to read a lot of comics (DC titles) but my interest in reading history has pushed that out. I used to be an active poster in a number of gayporn communities, but a committed relationship with a partner who is very healthy sexually has lessened this craving. Recent changes to the law have also scared me off of sharing porn images found on the net.


I used to be more of a political junkie, as opposed to a history junkie, but I found that this was a recipe for conflict in many communities. Very many people who are otherwise reasonable become angry and intolerant of those who have views that fall in the opposing spectrum. As a gay man with slightly right of center views, I was always pissing someone off. No matter how respectful and polite I tried to be, there were just some people who got very upset if I challenged their political view.

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I still like sports, but find I watch less of them these days. The sports communities on LJ seem to be really inactive. In some ways, it was worse when these communities were active. Some sports fans can get very catty, and find the internet a place where they can say offensive and insulting things from the safety of behind their computer that they would be too chicken (or too overtaken by good sense) to say in person. Typically, when whatever team I was supporting fell on hard times, the comments sections were filled with angry comments. When I tried to be the "rah-rah" guy who stuck with his team through thick and thin, that just seemed to make me a lightning rod for abusive comments from fair-weather fans.

But, as I've said before, I won't be bolting LJ any time soon, if for no other reason, because I don't want to lose over a dozen years of memories of my courtship of and early days with Seth, vacations to neat and geeky places, and other assorted moments of brilliance, frozen in time (temporarily at least) on the virtual pages of the world wide web.

I'm not sure if I'll continue to post more frequently, if I'll get active in my existing communities or look for other new and interesting ones, or seek out and discover new LJ friends. I will leave this post open to the public so if someone in LJ stumbles upon it and wants to become LJ friends, they can comment. Just be sane, don't be a bot or someone using LJ to sell a product, and be someone who won't take it personally if we happen to disagree on things.

seaivy who knows, maybe a decade from now it will be just you and me and the Russians on here. If so, nostorovia!


( 23 comments — Leave a comment )
Jun. 4th, 2015 08:33 pm (UTC)
LOL !!!!

welcome to Maturity!

but who knows
maybe there will be a Renaissance

for me its all about ideas
i should post more often in POTUS but L J was giving me a problem about it
i value what you do there

i liked having topics to write on
you did that also didn't you?

so you are a VALUE to L J people!
Here's to you - in iced green tea!
Jun. 8th, 2015 04:35 pm (UTC)
Here I am vowing to try and post more, and nothing (not even responding to comments) for four days. To quote one Charles Brown, "sigh!"
Jun. 5th, 2015 12:27 am (UTC)
I think many have the same to say about LJ, there have been a number of friending memes going on to help people get to know others, I seem to have an assortment of ages on my list, and I do like that.

I'll still be around, I have no intention of going anywhere else.

I do think some of our interests and passions change or diminish as we get older, but in some cases these are replaced by others.
Jun. 8th, 2015 04:37 pm (UTC)
John Lennon said it best: life is what happens to us when we're making other plans.
Jun. 5th, 2015 02:14 pm (UTC)

I haven't jumped ship although haven't been posting. I still can't figure out why. But like you I doubt I will ever abandon completely because of all the memories logged here. I also still read although don't comment as much. I need to get back on the computer where its easier to type and off the phone.

Jun. 8th, 2015 04:39 pm (UTC)
I always tell myself that I'll post when I feel like it, and if I don't feel like it, I won't feel obligated to do so (even though I do feel obligated.)
Jun. 5th, 2015 04:54 pm (UTC)
I find that I don't comment as much anymore and I certainly don't read every day. My friends list is also much smaller now than it was a decade ago. With all that being said, however, this is still my primary home on the Internet and while I don't comment as often I am always happy to hear from you and my other active friends through entries in your journal or comments in mine.
Jun. 8th, 2015 04:40 pm (UTC)
Likewise. I must admit though, my interest in your journal intensified when you became a resident of the Dominion of Canada. Somehow that sounds so un-Canadian.
Jun. 8th, 2015 04:42 pm (UTC)
Hah! I can't say that I blame you in the slightest ;)
Jun. 6th, 2015 09:57 am (UTC)
In the first couple of year that I was on LJ all my friends were from the Vig/Bean fandom communities.

Now they are mainly normal domesticated people going about their normal domesticated run of the mill lives.

I like that...I like to hear of the day to day lives of people who live on the other side of the world, especially if they post a lot of photos of their local environment and lives.

So yeah now that I'm out of fandom my flist isn't so active but my LJ experience is a lot more satisfying.

Reading how you, Seth and Abbey are getting on adds to my LJ pleasure.
Jun. 8th, 2015 04:41 pm (UTC)
This makes me wonder if fandom has become a passing fad, or if it still goes on, but we just never hear about it.
Nov. 30th, 2015 03:24 pm (UTC)
looks like you may have found me through a mutual friend, and we seem to have a few things in common interest wise. friends?
Nov. 30th, 2015 03:36 pm (UTC)
Sure, you're added.
Jan. 7th, 2016 05:15 pm (UTC)
I am willing to be considered! Longtime (2001) member, frequent poster and friend of rockingthemike.
Jan. 7th, 2016 06:10 pm (UTC)
do i have to provide a reference check on you now? ;)

add him ken; i think you two will get on rather well!
Jan. 7th, 2016 06:14 pm (UTC)
Cheque is in the mail, er, POST, bud. :)
Jan. 8th, 2016 01:31 am (UTC)
Absolutely. You're added.
May. 10th, 2016 07:43 pm (UTC)
Hi, added you. I'm still fairly active on here and like this. Feel free to add me back if you want.
May. 11th, 2016 01:22 am (UTC)
Thanks, you're added!
Jun. 9th, 2017 03:57 am (UTC)
I too wish to find new friends to add to the ones who have left, since they aren't coming back.
Jun. 9th, 2017 02:49 pm (UTC)
Feel welcome to add me if you like. I've been a little lax on commenting lately, but hope to get back into my old habits soon.
Feb. 12th, 2018 07:53 am (UTC)
Hi there. I found you through a few mutual friends. I quite enjoy reading about others' "dull and domesticated" lives because that's mostly what I write about. Mind if I add you?
Feb. 12th, 2018 06:51 pm (UTC)
Yes, please do!
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